Recently I was given the opportunity to attend a live taping of the #ADULTING Podcast starring Zack Peter & Abigail Fraher at the ORLY Color Labs located 7621 Beverly Blvd., Los Angeles, CA, 90036. The special guest of the evening was one of America’s most famous therapists, relationship experts, and author of “Bad Advice: How to Survive & Thrive in an Age of BULLSHIT”, Dr. Venus Nicolino, better known as Dr. V. Not only did I get to create my own nail polish at the ORLY Color Lab and name it but I also got to listen to and receive some incredible life-changing advice given by Dr. V herself! I wanted to share with you my 3 biggest take-aways from the podcast and encourage you to listen to this episode of #ADULTING. Believe it or not Dr. V will encourage you to unlearn everything you have ever been taught regarding sex, relationships, and dating!

3 THINGS I LEARNED FROM DR. V

JUST BECAUSE YOU HAVE SEX ON DATE ONE DOESN’T MAKE YOU A WHORE
I am sure I am not the only one who racks their brain trying to come up with the right or wrong answer when it comes to this theory. Sure I will say I have avoided having sex on a first date because I am fearful of how it will make the other person view me/judge me. But according to Dr. V, it REALLY DOESN’T MATTER. She says if you are both “feeling it” and you want to do it then DO IT. On Dr. V’s first date with her husband they had sex and continued to for the 20 years to follow. I found this advice very interesting because it is yet another example she gives of something we are taught by society that we should unteach ourselves!
FACETIME OR TALK ON THE PHONE WITH SOMEONE BEFORE GOING ON A FIRST DATE WITH THEM
I like this concept because like Dr. V mentions on the Podcast, it takes away from a lot of wasted time. She says the back and forth messaging for weeks is totally pointless. Get straight to the point and initiate a call or a FaceTime with the person you match with if you are interested. Of course you are all probably thinking WHAT!?! that will totally make me look like a crazy, psychotic person but according to Dr. V if the other person ends up feeling that way about your suggestion then it isn’t the right person for you to begin with. By having real time communication with someone in which they don’t have time to think about a response or have time to play back and forth games will help you see and feel if chemistry is really there. And if you click, then BOOM FIRST DATE TIME.
FIRST THING YOU SHOULD DO IN THE MORNING IS MASTURBATE, MEDITATE, AND PRACTICE GRATITUDE
When asked what the first thing Dr. V does in the morning this was literally her response. She said to do things that make you feel good first thing in the morning. She also said to really try and think of 5 things that you are grateful for each morning. Apparently this practice is a life-changing concept! I couldn’t agree more! And it is really hard to sit back and recognize what you are grateful for. Give it a try! I typically do this at the end of each day but I am going to take Dr. V’s advice and try doing this practice each morning, first thing when I wake up!